Monday, May 16, 2011

the difference

In dreams, the stuff could change to meet our needs and wants. In reality, it’s our expectations and desires that have to be adjusted to meet the hard truths, even to the extent of creating illusions to blind us from the harsh reality. No, it’s not escaping. It’s basic survival instinct.

Monday, March 28, 2011

the course of life

There comes a time, I suppose, when you see the people around you, the people you called your friends or acquaintances, entering into relationships, and you found yourself not really surprised anymore. Instead, you acknowledge the couple and congratulate them. And I think for me, that time has long passed. I guess maybe it’s because for a considerable part of my life, I grew up having slightly older friends and I guess gradually I have come to learn that boy-girlfriend relationships and marriages and perhaps even divorces are inevitable phases of life.

With Facebook, we learn about the ‘relationship statuses’ of the people around us even more quickly, perhaps even instantly, which I’m pretty happy about since I can stay updated without taking a more proactive role of trying to stay updated. At least there isn’t the chance of meeting a couple and say ‘hey I didn’t know u guys are together’, only to get a reply, ‘erm… that’s an eternity ago’. There is a lower possibility of calling a friend’s partner by his or her ex’s name. low possibility cos shit happens.

It’s the speed of how lives progress that I must get used too. Pretty soon, it’ll be weddings I’m attending, housewarming parties I’m invited to and baby showers I’m going, though that really depends on how much effort I’m willing to spend in making my social life an existence, as well as how tolerable my people skill actually is.

There’s always a certain fantasy associated with thinking that far ahead. But life from beginning to end generally is about the same. Live, reproduce and die. That’s destiny, although some may skip the second phase. Without a doubt, I’ll get to that point in time, and start to wonder why everything seems to be a déjà vu.
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Saturday, March 26, 2011

Libya

The past decade have seen a suddenly spike of violence and political changes. Perhaps the greatest irony, one that no one expects, is that years of resentment in the Middle East towards U.S. for the invasion of Iraq and Afghanistan has turned to what seemed to be now a hopeful glance at America for leadership and support.

Indeed, astonishingly, the past few months have seen the uprising of the people after torrid years of corruption under tyrants and irresponsible leaders. What never fail to amaze me is that the desperate desire for democracy spike after a man (Mohamed Bouazizi) lit himself on fire to express his hopelessness with oppression in Tunisia. Eqypt followed after, and thankfully, the leader resigned gracefully. In Libya, it was different too. Col Qaddafi refuses to budge, and wages war on his people. NATO, UN, and the United Arab Emirates, shocked by the use of violence sanction a no-flight zone in the country yesterday, which was received with gratefulness by the rebels. The bombing of yet another Middle Eastern country by America planes have begun. Paradoxically, it is one approved by many countries and even the UN Security Council, but and yet it is one that U.S. is reluctant to enter and eager to get out.

This is no surprise either. This year marks the anniversary of a ten-year occupation Afghanistan and seriously, no can foresee when U.S. can get out of that shithole. That, as well as the military presence on Iraq soil has added shamelessly to the tremendous deficit that U.S. has found no answer to. I suppose today’s wars is different from the wars fought 500 years ago. Then, the losers become slaves. The winners do whatever they like. Today, the winners, no doubt for humanitarian reasons, end up protecting the losers from their own fanatics. War is costly. U.S. learnt that the hard

Friday, February 11, 2011

the new entertainment

2009 marks the advent of social media sites and by 2011, today, their popularity has increased tremendously. Facebook and Twitter are probably 2 of the most visited websites today, and it’s always amazing how some people actually update the details by the hour.

Is self-disclosure the new entertainment?

I find it extraordinary how the desire for privacy seems to have waned over the last couple of years. In Facebook, it’s almost fascinating how much information we can find about our friends. Almost gone are the days, at least for people my age, when one gets surprised after seeing a couple on the streets and realizing that they are attached. Why this phenomenon?

Does it provide a sense of self-importance, a feeling of one’s significance?
Not long ago, the new trend was blogs and online diaries. Are facebook and twitter, software that allows real-time updating and instant links to other people, evolutions of those?

What is it going to be like to stay connected to this digital age 50 years later?

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

religion

A Christian and an agnostic died and arrived before the heavens. “I told you so!” said the Christian.

But should the atheist be vindicated, does anyone have anything to be joyous about? Why are the atheists so triumphant about their beliefs? Do they honestly think they are better off than their fellow counterparts who placed their faith on the supernatural?
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In a documentary titled ‘Religious’, Bill Maher (a comedian who I have come to be a huge fan of) explored the different religions embraced by the people his country. There are obviously the Christians, the Catholics, the Muslims, the Mormons, the Scientologists. Hell, there’s even one guy who believed that he’s the second coming of Christ and has, amazingly, a significant following of thousands. The question I found myself asking myself is this, “Just where is the line, beyond which an ‘average’ human being will deem beyond rationality, and if there is such a line, how close will it be to what another ‘average’ human being classified as insanity?” Or when it comes to religion, does logic even matter at all?

Aside from those highlighted in the documentary, there is the Jehovah Witness. The Chinese believe in a mixture of Taoism, Hinduism and Buddhism, that sometimes it becomes really hard to term his or her belief. Even within the Christian circle, believers are separated into various divisions and denominations, each with their own practices, culture, and sometimes even teachings. And I’m sure the same applies for Muslims too.

In America, a huge portion of its people believes the world is made in 5000 years. Evolution is just a hypothesis. Global warming is a myth. Some justify the last statement by suggesting that a global epidemic is not possible because God promised Noah that there will never be widespread devastation. Several years ago, Bush halted stem cell research because a group of cells (smaller than perhaps a pea) is considered to be life. Priests go to Aids-stricken nations and advocate against the use of condoms. It’s when I learn about all these, did I understand Maher’s agony. Here is the United States of America, a country that he loves, torn apart, literally because of the 911 incident, economically and socially when voters elect their congressmen and senators by what the candidates believe in. Instead of an election that is dependent on how policy makers are going to handle the failing economy, Maher got an election that is based on the debate on gay rights.

In Singapore, I think we are lucky that religion has not stepped over the boundaries in the creation of our policies, even though the not-too-long-ago AWARE saga seems to point towards in the opposite direction. We are fortunate that as a conservative society, we could escape the homosexuality debate for a while, but as we moved towards to become a more free and liberal society, that’s when the social fabric has to be stretched. I know people who are homophobic, and to them I pose the question, “We claim to be a country that everyone is entitled to his or her own beliefs, provided they don’t adversely affect others. Is that just hypocrisy? Can you really answer that they adversely affect you because you can’t stand the sight of them?”

A lot of atheists and agnostics discredit religion by blaming it for a great deal of unnecessary violence. They point to the numerous jihads and the crusades throughout civilization and lament that lives need not be lost if not for such senseless behavior. In certain countries, people stone adulterers because their Scripture told them to do so. In others, people justify genocides in the name of God. The defense put up is that these attacks are not religious by nature, but actually political. But the sad truth is that it’s the religious people, who believed blindly, that allowed themselves to be made use of in the first place.

Nonetheless, the question to ask ourselves is not if such mindless slaughter will stop should religion be non-existent, but religion can ever be non-existent in the first place.

One only need to look at Hitler and his holocaust to know that people don’t just kill in the name of their God. In the last 10 centuries, millions of Chinese died in the endless wars between the Chinese states. Did all this happen because of religion? Definitely not religion as we know it today, but it is religion because they believe in something that is worth the destruction of millions of lives.

So why have religious people been eager to persecute each other? Why have people condemned Galileo when he disputed the geocentric model of the world based on observed facts? And even so today, why are people so adamantly denying evolution although the fossils are evidence clear enough? Perhaps because this is no longer just a simple argument about theories and hypothesizes. Instead, they are arguments that will directly affect the people’s lives, not only lives belong to this “mortal” world, but the after-lives that they do and have to believe in.

“And this brings us to the unique paradox of the human condition: that man wants to persevere as does any animal or primitive organism; he is driven by the same craving to consume, to convert energy and to enjoy continued experience. But man is cursed with a burden no animal has to bear: he is conscious that his own end is inevitable, that his stomach will die.”

People often compare the Homo Sapiens to animals and wonder why humans seem to be the only species killing each other, or even just killing for pleasure. Are humans worse than animals? But I think if you go deeper into the psychological motivations of people, it only seems natural that the reasons for areas which make us ‘better’ than animals (smarter, ability to reflect, e.g.) are the same reasons for areas which make us ‘worse’.

Man needs to transcend death, and he does so “not only by continuing to feed his appetites, but especially by finding a meaning for his life, some kind of larger scheme into which he fits: he may believe he has fulfilled God’s purpose, or done his duty to his ancestors or family, or achieved something. This is how man assures the expansive meaning of his life in the face of the real limitations of his body”.
After all, “what Man really fears is not so much extinction, but extinction with insignificance”.

My point is that religion is here to stay, whether we like it or not. Even for atheists who opt not to believe in a higher being is culpable of believing in something, be it his own achievements or philosophy etc. Richard Dawkins, an atheist and writer of The God Delusion, has to believe in something, and for him I presume it is Science. And if you think that’s much better off than believing in some God, so did Hitler. After all, aside from the religious extremists, who is to say that religion will not change people for the better? Lots of criminals have been reformed due to religion and not because the possible jail-time or the cane scare the hell out of them. And who is not to say that America’s liberal social system might also possibly arise because the religious people believe that everyone who is God’s creation should have his or her rights too?

But at the same time, we should realize that it is very important not to let religion be involved in politics (I think that’s what got American politics into such a mess), not to allow any religious agenda to be part of it, and not to just vote for someone because he believes in the same God as you. Firstly, you do not know if he’s just pretending. Secondly, it definitely does not mean that he has the ability to lead the country, or whatever he is supposed to do. Opinions should not be made into law. Neither should faith-based beliefs.

Our secret fantasy is for everyone around us to share our hopes, our ideals, our god or no god for that matter. But that is never going to be achieved realistically. Interestingly, the little amount of sanctuary in our first world nation (besides the Vatican) comes not from everyone having the same God, but everyone finally understanding that the person next to him to entitled to his or her own beliefs. And if this little peace has to come at the expense of allowing the other person to do whatever he likes without affecting us directly, I think I can live with that. I hope that you would too.

*quotes are taken from Escape from Evil, Ernest Becker.

Thursday, November 25, 2010

changes

There is a point in life when everything changes. It can be the day one gets married, the day one finds himself having a child, the first job or the graduation day.

One of the most memorable lines that I remember from Sex and City is this: “I wake up, look at the mirror, and I don’t recognise myself anymore.”

Is this part of growing up, part of transiting from one phase of life to another? Is this what’s happening to me?

When I was young, I was confident (quite) that I would remain more or less the same today. I would be working no doubt, but nonetheless with the same nonchalant, apathetic personality, motivated sufficiently to help the person next to me. I would stick with some of my old friends. But it seems not the case today. Sure, some of these things are constant. Yet my worldview has changed completely. And so if a younger version of me was to look in the ‘mirror’ and see into the future this person today, would he accept it? Maybe, since he does not have a choice. Would he be happy with it? I’ve always subscribed to Murphy’s Law, but I think he would feel a certain degree of shock.

I guess in my opinion, the biggest change occurs when beliefs changes, when religion changes. That’s when everything on which one’s life used to be based on would be devastated. That’s when a value system, that ought to be constant, is shattered. The perspective with which one looks at a particular situation might have to change, because the rationale for the particular outlook is no longer applicable.

At the end of the day, am I convinced that this change is for the better - at the very least, for myself? I could have a more pragmatic view life, but that does not equate to a more fulfilling life. Then again, such self-persuasion is meaningless; I can’t go back now. Logic will never tolerate that. I doubt my mind would allow that.

I still feel I haven’t sufficiently grasped the impact of the changes. Maybe like many others, I choose not to think that far because usually, the future we perceive today are not at all relevant. They just serve as something for us to cling on to, for us to motivate ourselves to continue to do what we are doing. Or maybe I don’t really forsee a future that exciting and entertaining.

Ah. The bliss of self-deception, and the wonders of repression…

Thursday, November 04, 2010

mind your own business

Recently, a young adult was hacked to death by a gang. Apparently, it began just as a verbal conflict. I suppose he went to challenge the gang or the gang leader or something. If you ask me if I think he deserve it. I’ll say no. After all, no man deserve to die when he commit no crime. But did he ask for it? I don’t know. Maybe?

I thought one or two incidents like this once in a while will teach society to be more tolerant. It’s not too long ago I witnessed a rather violent fight. What began as just an almost innocent wrong like smoking in a no-smoking corner in a coffee-shop escalated into a scene in which three to four men threw chairs at a man because his wife refused to stop complaining loudly even know the one who was smoking stopped doing so. It’s almost a joke.

Sometimes, I think we should learn to just shut up and get on with life, and quit complaining for a while. It’s almost exasperating to see someone writing to the Straits Times Forum to complain about silly things, disappointing especially considering the average education level of our citizens. It’s as if we feel that providing a ‘feedback’ to the company is not enough, and we must do more to embarrass the company.

After this incident, maybe for another few years, people will think twice before picking up a fight again.

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